Category: Mindset

What Exactly is It?

Flu season typically comes around October-December. This is a common phrase thrown around that indicates the rise of flu-like symptoms to occur. The flu is not something that comes around during these months specifically; in fact, the flu has everything to do with the stress state of your body. During these months your body is undergoing the highest levels of stress. Your immune system can become suppressed, which allows your body to be susceptible to a flu virus.

Changing the Norm

The worst thing to prevent the flu is to receive a flu shot. Research from the CDC, Journal of Medicine, and more have shown study after study why this is true. It does not prevent the flu, but it is guaranteed to inject aluminum and other harmful chemicals into your body. These add stress and toxins to your body, which causes more harmful side effects. When your body is under stress it is also remaining in a fight or flight mode. When your body is in this state, the immune system lowers because it is focused on surviving. Stress increases during the holidays not only emotionally, but also chemically based on the foods that are consumed. To avoid compromising your immune system, following these five steps will point you in the optimal direction for health.

5 Ways to Avoid the Flu Season as a Whole

1. Apple Cider Vinegar/Elderberry

These two boosts the immune system. ACV balances stomach acid and helps your microbiome which makes up 80-90% of your immune system. Elderberry is great for the immune system, high antioxidant, and is high in vitamin C. Both these are great for adults and children.

2. Anti-Inflammatory Diet

This change alone could eliminate almost every flu symptom. When you eliminate foods like sugars and grains, you increase the nutrients your body obtains and lower inflammation. This can be the most effective change to avoid getting the flu.

3. Vitamin D3/Vitamin C

These increase your overall immune health. (When taking Vitamin D3, make sure it also contains K2, magnesium, and Vitamin A/E) Rather than taking supplements for Vitamin C, get this source naturally from foods. A great example is squeezing 3 lemons in your water each day. That is equivalent to the daily amount needed for Vitamin C.

4. Probiotics

Unfortunately, the use of antibiotics has killed a large portion of many people’s healthy bacteria. 80-90% of your immune system is in your gut. Our bodies are more microbiome than we are human cells. It is important to give your body good bacteria within the immune system to help fight off illnesses.

5. Chiropractic Care

Chiropractic adjustments increase your CD4 count, which means it increases the health of your immune system. Adjustments also increase your IDA levels which are found within your gut, increasing your immune system and digestive system as well. Adjustments balance stress levels, stimulate the nervous system and allows your body to be in a homeostasis state.


If you live in the Matthews/Charlotte area here in North Carolina, or would like a recommendation to other chiropractors in your area, contact us here. We would love to be in contact with you!

The #1 Leading Health Issue

Source of Sickness

There is one main cause of all major health lifestyle issues from back pain to cancer. The World Health Organization has stated the main issue of health issues stem from stress. To break this down even further, when our body is undergoing stress it can easily be inflamed. Because we are stressed emotionally, chemically, and physically, our body can undergo chronic inflammation. Inflammation is a way our body repairs and heals itself; however, when inflammation is out of control, we start to see symptoms of our body breaking down.

The Stress Cycle

One of the negative effects of chronic inflammation is an increase of cortisol levels. Cortisol’s natural mechanism in the body is to act as an anti-inflammatory agent. More issues rise when cortisol levels increase that can cause unhealthy balances such as hormonal issues and interfere with your body’s ability to function at its optimal level. Cortisol also can lower your adrenals, which can lead to adrenal fatigue. It can even effect your thyroid which will lower the function of how your thyroid operates.  Overall, your immune and digestive system will be in an unhealthy state due to your body’s fixation on the other imbalanced areas throughout the body. The stress in our world today has gone above and beyond. It’s not just the emotional stress, but it is also the physical and chemical stress.

Stress Overload

Our body needs stress in order to function. Stress such as gravity holds the body together and regenerate. When working out, stress increases our ability to grow in mass and strength. Stress is an essential part of health, but when stress is overly produced throughout our body and environment it causes a major chain of  unhealthy effects. Statistics show the average person sits 90% of their day which is extremely physically stressful to our body.  90% of the stimulation to your brain comes from the movement of your spine. When you’re positioning your body in a stressful state the majority of your day, you are interfering with your body’s optimal function. This leads to chronic inflammation that start the downward spiral of health effects.

4 Ways to Reduce Inflammation and Stress

1. Anti-inflammatory Diet

Simply shifting your diet to focus on anti-inflammatory foods will drastically change your health. This involves eliminating grains, refined sugars, pastas, and more. But it also includes adding whole, nutrient dense foods that will replenish your body and heal it from the inside out. This includes dark leafy greens, fresh produce, and foods high in omega-3.

2. Supplements

Supplements, such as adaptogens, increase your body’s ability to heal from inflammation. High quality supplements to take include turmeric, ashwagandha, rhodiola, CBD oil, and more. Consult with your natural doctor to find out which ones are best for you.

3. Chiropractic Care

Adjustments remove interference to your spine. Since 90% of all brain stimulation is connected to your spine, this simple investment to your health will show drastic changes over time and even prevent further health complications.

4. Reducing Stress

There are emotional, physical, and chemical stressors that harm your body and increase inflammation. Reducing or removing the stressors you can control are key to eliminating inflammation throughout your body. For emotional stress, find a daily outlet such as walking to clear your mind, create blood flow, and increase movement into your routine. For chemical stress, eliminate foods like sugar that harm your body’s levels such as hormones. Purchase organic cleaning, beauty, and clothing products. For physical stressors, find out what workouts for your body allow growth and rest. Do not overwork your body and replenish it with harmful foods that will keep your body in an inflamed state. The positive side to stressors is that many of them are controllable, changeable, and removable.


If you live in the Matthews/Charlotte area here in North Carolina, or would like a recommendation to other chiropractors in your area, contact us here. We would love to be in contact with you!

Regaining Hormone Balance

Avoiding Further Health Issues

Menstrual cycle issues, PCOS, ovarian cyst, and even breast cancer can all stem from hormone disruptions. Certain times of developmental growth, even within the womb, can be interrupted by specific chemicals that affect our growth and causes certain diseases. Studies have shown over 300 million dollars are spent annually on hormonal issues within our country. Some of the disrupters are due to personal choices, but also products we consume that contain toxic chemicals ultimately manipulating our health.

Taking Charge of Hormonal Issues

When your hormones are imbalanced, everything is affected. Not only do you experience health side effects, but it can also alter your mood and even personality. The range of issues vary; they can be as low as irritability and as high as cancer or autoimmune diseases. These six tips are simple changes you can make for you and your family today. Regardless of where your hormone levels are, you can change them drastically. Connect with a natural health doctor who will assist and guide you through making these changes. Taking one step at a time will begin to transform the performance of everyday living. Your body is worth investing in through time, products, foods, and knowledge.

Top 6 Hormonal Disrupters

1. Plastics (BPAs)

These act like hormones within our body. Eliminate containers made of plastic for food, drinks, toys, and more. Avoid buying plastic products such as baby bottles and pacifiers. BPA free is a better alternative, but there are more chemicals within the plastic that are harmful. Going on the Body Ecology Diet or Plant Paradox Diet will not only eliminate antibiotic foods in your diet, but also heal the microbiome and digest food easier within your gut.

2. Phthalates

These are found in clothing, cleaning products, beauty products, fragrances, and more. Phthalates are highly toxic to the body. Switch your products to 100% organic to avoid using these toxins.

3. Triclosan

This is found in “antibacterial” products. It can be put in anything from soaps, cosmetics, and even toothpaste. It is marketed to prevent bacteria from entering the body. However, when you constantly kill off bacteria it also kills off good bacteria found within the body. This is harmful considering up to 90% of your immune system is bacteria.

4. Birth Control

You are affecting your endocrine system at a synthetic level, which disrupts your body’s ability to balance its own hormones naturally. Long term effects can be infertility, depression, cervical cancer and more. Birth control ultimately lowers hormones and increases health issues. Birth control does not solve health issues; it only acts as a temporary band-aid with additional side effects.

5. Health and Beauty Products

A simple change for these products is to make sure they are organic. Avoid products with long lists of ingredients. With these products, less is more. You want a high-quality product that is not going to affect your hormonal health if you come in contact with it, especially when you are putting it directly on your body.

6. Diet

This is the most important and most impactful way to allow your body to produce balanced hormones. Simple diet tips are to remove refined sugars, soy products, grains, GMO products, and antibiotic dairy products. Grow your own fruits and vegetables or find a close-to-home organic farmer for the best source of food.


If you live in the Matthews/Charlotte area here in North Carolina, or would like a recommendation to other chiropractors in your area, contact us here. We would love to be in contact with you!

Bacteria, Fungus, and Viruses

The Key to Health

Ultimately when there’s an overgrowth of yeast, it is an issue of the microbiome within the digestive system or body. Our body is 85% microbiome, which includes healthy bacteria and fungus found in our gut. Having a healthy microbiome is the key to longevity and health. This also boosts our immune system which protects the body from issues like yeast infections, candida overgrowth, or skin problems.

The Main Factor

Bacteria have antifungal and antiviral effects. Viruses have antibacterial and antifungal effects. Fungi have antibacterial and antiviral effects. They live in symbiosis together, balancing one another out. Once an antibiotic is taken, it kills the bacteria and increases the growth of fungus. Overgrowth of yeast within the body has a direct correlation to the immense use of antibiotics whether directly taken or pumped through our source of food. Antibiotics are not limited to medications but are also in soaps, baby wipes, creams, and more. The food and products we put into our bodies are vital in the balance of bacteria, fungus, and viruses.

5 Ways to Eliminate Yeast Overgrowth in the Body

1. Gut Healing Foods

Going on the Body Ecology Diet or Plant Paradox Diet will not only eliminate antibiotic foods in your diet, but also heal the microbiome and digest food easier within your gut.

2. Probiotics

Using a healthy source, like the Garden of Life, will nourish your digestive system. Taking a dosage of 400 billion probiotics for 4-5 days then 100 billion for a month will replenish your system. After this, you can take 50 billion as a maintenance.

3. Apple Cider Vinegar

Taking a spoonful of ACV with water first thing in the morning and right before bed. You can also take a spoonful right before your meals.

4. Fermented Foods

A popular fermented drink is Kombucha. Other great sources of fermented food are kimchi, sauerkraut, kifer, and more. The key is quality of fermented food.

5. Immune Support

Taking supplements like Vitamin D3 with K2 and magnesium. Also, eating things like garlic and ginger are natural support for your immune system daily. You can drink organic cranberry juice or lemons alkalize the body. And high quality bone broth provide health benefits for your overall health.


If you live in the Matthews/Charlotte area here in North Carolina, or would like a recommendation to other chiropractors in your area, contact us here. We would love to be in contact with you!

Healthcare Crisis

The healthcare system has had no issue focusing their time and energy on ways to financially provide healthcare. Our focus should shift from affording healthcare to transforming healthcare. Studies continuously show we are the sickest industrialized country with the most doctors, medicine, and treatment options. We are 5% of the world’s population and we consume 75% of the world’s medications. Statistically, one out of two people will have heart disease and one out of three people will have cancer. It is evident the healthcare sytem is failing us.

Do You Have a Plan?

Thankfully, you have full control of taking responsibility of your health. The question to ask yourself is do you have a game plan? We are not just talking about a specific insurance plan, but more about a plan of action. Most plans are in place of emergency situations, rather than preventing detrimental health disasters. It’s all about building up health. It’s giving your body strength for its optimal ability to function and heal. This is how you keep yourself from  getting things like heart disease, cancer, back pain, digestive problems, and more. Health is more than focusing on one thing. It’s multiple lifestyle habits working together to make sure your body is functioning at 100%.

Changing Societal Norms

As a society, we are very aware of following protocols from medications to cover up health symptoms. Where we lack, however, is dealing straight with the root cause. Our body was not made to heal from the outside in. Instead, it was powerfully created to heal from the inside out. A proactive question to ask yourself before taking medications or following a treatment for symptoms is, “will this remove the interference causing the underlying issue and is it going to rebuild health, strength, and healing?” Creating a game plan with your spouse and family for each of the following topics will set your family up for overall success and health.

5 Ways to Build Health as a Family

1. Diet

Focusing on non-inflammatory foods will drastically change the way your body functions. Almost every named diet follows this specific step. If your body is inflamed, then your body is building disease. Adults typically feel effects faster than a child’s due to the strength of a child’s body. The issue with this, however, is your child will eventually see side effects overtime. Watching your water intake, electrolytes, and minerals are equally important.

2. Recovery

What does your sleep schedule look like? What about your child’s ? A parent’s amount of rest effects the entire household’s health. Lack of prioritizing sleep can result in issues between spouses, children, and your overall health. It is vital to get 7-9 hours of sleep and remain in a mental state of peace as often as possible throughout the day. Recovery is vital for exercise, also. Without it, you are breaking your body down opposed to building  muscle.

3. Exercise

Our society is so sedentary that it requires us to prioritize full range of motion movement daily.   Exercise increases oxygen, regulates our hormones, and strengthens our cardiovascular health. It’s important to understand the different effects on woman’s and men’s bodies when it comes to exercise. As a family, walking can be a key to your health. This is an easy routine to get into, decreasing screen time and increasing health physically and emotionally.

4. Adjustments

Your spine is essential to the nervous system’s functionality. Your nervous system is vitally important because it controls 90% of the brain’s stimulation and is also connected to every organ in the body. Movement feeds the brain so when disks are holding extra pressure or misaligned, health issues begin to rise. Adjustments alone do not heal the body. Adjustments assist in removing interference so the body can heal itself properly.

5. Mindset

The most important aspect of your health is your mindset. Your perspective on life impacts the stress released throughout your body and ultimately the way your body functions. Your mindset can be impacted by multiple things. If your diet is poor, your mindset will follow. Inflammation causes brain fog, fatigue, and memory loss. If you have little to no movement daily, you will increase the chances of depression. Studies prove the positive effects of exercise are greater than depression medications time and time again.


If you live in the Matthews/Charlotte area here in North Carolina, or would like a recommendation to other chiropractors in your area, contact us here. We would love to be in contact with you!

A Need for Change

There is something drastically wrong in our healthcare system when our country consumes the most prescribed drugs yet the third leading cause of death is medication. Not only are we consuming most of the medication, but also opioids specifically are at an all time high. Simultaneously, we are also cutting out organs, removing pieces of our spine, and consuming chemicals every single day.

The Paradigms

The two options we have will determine the course of our life. The most popular one being used is the medical paradigm, while the other holistic approach is the vitalistic paradigm. We have been convinced as a society to automatically side and trust the medical paradigm. The medical paradigm says your body is weak, unintelligent, and needs doctors and medications to function properly. Prevention is a medical tool that only blocks your body’s ability to adapt and, over time, makes you sick. If you cannot adapt, your body is not healthy. Another issue is that it does not line up with science, physiology, or the philosophy that our body is powerfully and wonderfully made. The main concept of the vitalistic paradigm says our body is powerful and can regulate itself without interference. God created a complex system that works together with the ability to heal and restore.

Overload of Stress

Stress causes interference to the body whether it is physical, emotional, or chemical stress. How resilient we equip our body to be determines the outcome of interacting with these types of stress. For example, if you work out and are recovering the following day, you are allowing your body to become more resilient. The first way to increase resilience and health is to eliminate unnecessary stress such as chemical stressors. This include medications, which only block your body’s ability to heal, adapt, and restore itself as it was created to. Knowing which paradigm you choose will miraculously define the health for your life.  You have to ask yourself, “which will it be?”

The Medical Paradigm

1. Your body is weak, unintelligent, and needs medicine to be healthy.

2. Healing comes from the outside in.

3. The Germ Theory stating that viruses and bacteria are the cause of sickness.

4. You can take a medication every daily and be healthy.

5. Your body is separated into systems.

6. A cure is in the form of a pill.

The Vitalistic Paradigm

1. You are powerfully and wonderfully made. Your body is self healing, self regulating, and doesn’t not need help healing.

2.  Your body needs no interference.

3. Medications block your body’s ability to adapt and is the opposite of healthy.

4. Epigenetics explain that genes alone do not determine our characteristics.

5. Your body is the sum of its parts. Every part has a role.

6. The cure is inside of you.


If you live in the Matthews/Charlotte area here in North Carolina, or would like a recommendation to other chiropractors in your area, contact us here. We would love to be in contact with you!

Anxiety and Depression

All Time High

Anxiety in the U.S. is so common that over 40 million adults have been diagnosed. Although anxiety and depression differentiate, they are commonly diagnosed together. The obvious causes of these disorders are linked to traumatic events, but there are many other factors that also play a role. Other causes can be hormone imbalances, diet, and stress . Your body can stay in a stress mode due to anything from a car accident to using a chemical household cleaner.

The Positive Side

The greatest part about recognizing or becoming diagnosed with either disorder is that you have the power to change it. After 30 years of practice, neurologist Dr. Caroline Leaf found our mind controls our brain. Up until this new research, majority of doctors believed our brains controlled our minds. This led to the belief in prescribing drugs if there is an imbalance, since the chemical make up was thought to be unchangeable. This belief has been proven false time and time again by many great doctors such as Dr. Caroline Leaf. Our body has the ability to heal itself, which positively includes healing anxiety and depression.

3 Ways to Improve Anxiety and Depression

1. Note Cards

As simple as it sounds, having a note card that says something uplifting to read anytime you’re anxious can really eliminate many symptoms. In order to renew your mind, you must speak life over yourself. Write a scripture down that holds onto truth. Clinging to these scriptures will allow yourself to think outside of the situation, ultimately leading to reduction of stress.

2. Exercise

Exercising has been proven to decrease both anxiety and depression. The common misconception is needing to workout 45-60 minutes a day. However, 10-15 minutes is just as effective. This will also allot time to be active throughout the day opposed to blocking off a time for exercise. Doing small things, such as air squats, will keep your blood flowing and mood increasing. Exercise is not based on a feeling; it is based off a choice.

3. Sleep

Sleep is vital to your health and recovery. If you are not getting enough sleep, make this a priority. Taking steps such as removing screen time an hour before bed will allow your body to naturally fall asleep quicker. The optimal window of sleep is 7-9 hours. One study showed athletes who increased their sleep by 2 hours, fitting into that optimal window, had an increase in performance. All they changed was their sleeping habits.

Additional Help

Chiropractic care helps immensely with issues involving stress to the body, specifically the spine. There are also tests you can take to specify which hormones are imbalanced. You can take natural adaptogens like Kava and Ashwagandha to lower your body from being in a stress state. To stay in a stable state, it is important to eliminate grains, bad fats, and sugar .


If you live in the Matthews/Charlotte area here in North Carolina, or would like a recommendation to other chiropractors in your area, contact us here. We would love to be in contact with you!

No Need For Fear

If we are being honest, the world around us has a lot of unhealthy families. We are the leading country of infant mortality, almost 40% of our children are obese, and over 40 kids are diagnosed with cancer a day. Whether it’s emotionally or physically, there are several ways to make positive change. There are some obvious tips such as not feeding kids sugar, resting enough, or chemicals in the environment. We will dive into the important changes people often miss.

Although every parent worries for their children, there are lots of practical steps to take in order to avoid many of these statistics. These three steps will empower you to take charge of the responsibility we have as parents.

3 Practical Ways to Raise a Healthy Family

  1. Honor Your Symptoms

    There is no food, supplement, or pill to take when your immune system is showing you symptoms. If your child has a fever, their body is fighting bacteria, disease, or going through change. Pediatric journals state your body has to get to 102°F to kill a bacteria and 104°F to kill a virus.  If you cough, your body is trying to eliminate what is in your body. If your sinuses drain, your body is creating a mucus build up to get rid of what is in your body. The worse thing you can do is give your child a pill to mask the symptom. Honor a fever, cough, or runny nose. Allow their body to do what it was created to do (Psalm 139:14).

  2. Introduce Chiropractic Care

    This is extremely valuable to the whole family, especially children. 90% of stimulation to the brain comes from the movement of your spine. The US has the highest infant mortality rate. With chiropractic care, adjustments align the spine to function properly and in return allow your body to respond properly. Your spine can get subluxated, or misaligned, even from birth. When your body is in a stress state, or fight or flight mode, you experience symptoms such as high blood pressure, heart rate, weakened immune system, and weakened digestive system. Chiropractic helps your body adapt to your environment, not because it treats your symptoms, but because it helps your body be able to heal itself.

  3. Understand Vaccines 

    This is not an article on whether you should or should not give your child vaccines. This is vital as a parent to become aware and active in researching what your children are being given. For vaccinations, research the physiological effects of giving multiple vaccines together. Don’t just research the prevention benefits, also research the ingredients and mechanisms of vaccines in the body. If you don’t study the anatomy and physiology of your children, you will never know what your doctor is prescribing. At the end of the day, you are ultimately responsible for any outcome based on giving or not giving your child a vaccine. Research beyond one article and one video; researching for yourself has a more powerful foundation for what you believe in and stand for.

Bonus Tip: Screen Time

This tip is not just for kids. It is also for parents and teens. The amount of screen time for kids is damaging and stressful to their neurology. As their brain is trying to develop it stays in a high stress response. These are then labeled with diagnosis like ADD and ADHD. Not only is it neurologically damaging but it is also extremely addictive. Regulating the use or eliminating certain devices will increase focus, development, and quality family time.


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Perhaps you’ve heard the phrase “change your habits, change your life.” (It’s also the title of a best-selling book!) As a Charlotte chiropractic clinic who has worked with hundreds of patients to help them transform their health and life through positive habits, we can attest to this statement being true.

But as another popular saying goes, “old habits die hard.” Because we realize that it can be difficult for many people to make big changes (especially multiple changes all at one time), we’re giving you some easy, fast, and practical new habits that you can implement right away and watch your life transform! (In the corporate world, they call these “quick wins”.)

Habit 1: Read (or listen to) one new book each month.

If you don’t like to read, audio books are a great solution. Choose a title that will develop a positive mindset, build your confidence, and steer you toward achieving your life and business goals.

Habit 2: Drink a tall glass of water first thing in the morning.

Staying hydrated is essential to maintaining your health, and drinking a tall (16 oz.) glass of water first thing in the morning improves hydration and helps with weight loss. Just remember to drink at least 4 more of those tall glasses throughout the day, and you’ll notice a positive difference in how you feel!

Habit 3: Set your alarm 30 minutes earlier.

And don’t hit the snooze button, as tempting as it may be! Getting up earlier will improve your productivity. Spend those 30 minutes doing something you normally wouldn’t do for lack of time, such as reading, meditating, or exercising. Now you’ll have no excuses NOT to get that workout in.

Habit 4: Compliment yourself.

This may sound silly, but words of affirmation can be life-changing. Rather than relying on other people to affirm you, as many people do, you can get into the daily habit of affirming yourself. It’s as simple as waking up, going into the bathroom in the morning, standing in front of your mirror, and telling yourself how awesome you are. Watch this video for some inspiration. 😉

Habit 5: Focus on one thing at a time.

Remember when orange was the new black? Now, it’s multitasking. And according to recent research, it’s killing our productivity. Rather than trying to do many different things at once, try focusing on just one thing at a time and watch your efficiency and productivity go through the roof!

Habit 6: Smile.

Smile at yourself in front of the mirror. Smile at the barista when you buy your morning coffee. Smile at your neighbor while you’re on your morning run. Smile at your coworkers when you walk into work. You’d be surprised how this small change can positively transform your entire day. Not only that, it’s contagious! Your happiness will radiate out toward and through you, right into the people you come in contact with.

Habit 7: Get organized.

This isn’t necessarily a daily habit. It can be something you do all at once and repeat every month, every quarter, or as often as you need. Think about how much more difficult it is to get things done when your workspace is cluttered. A neat, organized environment will reduce stress and improve your productivity by a mile. If organization is not your strong suit, you can hire a personal assistant to do it for you.

Day 3: Forgiveness Challenge

In case you missed the previous 2 announcements, we’re celebrating 12 Days of Christmas, Queen City Health Center-style! We’d like to challenge all of our patients, friends, and family members to commit to making one thoughtful health change for the next 12 days. We are confident you’ll notice a difference in the way you feel!

Day 3: Take a few minutes to exercise forgiveness toward someone who has wronged you.

Try writing a letter, speaking it out loud, or calling the person to ask for their forgiveness.

Humans are made up of three parts: mind, body, and spirit. Often times we ignore the importance of our spiritual health. This season is the perfect time to experience freedom in your mind and spirit and share that freedom with others.

Forgiveness is not an easy thing; in fact, it’s much easier said than done. Forgiving someone who has hurt you takes strength, patience, and practice. At some point in our lives, we all come to a crossroads where we need to decide if we should forgive the person who wronged us or to let them go.

Sometimes it’s not another person that we need to forgive. Instead, it’s ourselves that we need to forgive for the mistakes we’ve made. There is never a right or wrong answer, and it is a personal decision. If you choose to forgive, it may not have been the same choice that your friend or family member has made and that’s okay, because this is your life, not theirs. The most important thing you must know is that forgiveness is a CHOICE. When you choose to forgive, you have made a decision in your heart that you desire to break free from anger against another person.

If you’re not sure how to forgive, or where to start, here are tips and points of inspiration:

1.) Know that forgiveness doesn’t mean that you are validating that what hurt you is okay.

First of all, when you forgive, know that it does not mean that you are fine with what happened. Forgiveness is choosing to accept what happened and making a choice to move forward in your life. It is the first step toward self-healing.

2.) Let go of the past.

When you make a decision to forgive, you are making a commitment to let go of the past. It doesn’t mean that it will be forgotten; it means that you are cutting ties with it. No more bringing up the past to your significant other, your friend, or yourself who did you wrong. No more blaming, pointing fingers, or fighting. It is over with. Finité! What’s done is done. You can’t change the past, so why hold onto it? Self-healers choose to learn from the past and let it go.

3.) Choose love.

Start a clean slate with the person you are forgiving. If you feel bottled up resentment that is seconds away from spewing out of you, keep making steps daily toward releasing those feelings. Forgiveness can be a daily act or walk; it’s like weight training—at first you can’t lift the 50lbs, but you can lift 10lbs so start there. You may not be able to call and forgive someone on the phone, but out loud in this moment, you can say “I forgive so and so for xyz.” To forgive is to take those heavy bricks off your back and stop walking on eggshells. It requires moving forward knowing that you are being the bigger person and choosing love over hate.

4.) Find inner peace.

This step will probably be the most difficult. Even if you have chosen forgiveness and are willing to let go of the past, it is extremely hard to move forward in life as if everything is back to normal. You need to find inner peace. This can be done in many ways. My advice: Focus on yourself and bettering yourself as a person. Even though you weren’t at fault, focusing on yourself will create positive energy. Focusing your energy on yourself instead of hate is much more peaceful and gratifying.

Forgiveness is a choice. You are not a doormat for choosing to forgive. You are not an idiot for giving that person a second chance. You are strong and have a big heart, which is something to be extremely proud of. You were not at fault. You have chosen love over hate. You have the ability to experience freedom and healing today in this holiday season. Be bold and courageous!

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Queen City Health Center is a Charlotte Chiropractic and total wellness center for individuals and families. With locations across Charlotte, NC and Matthews, NC, we specialize in helping individuals and families find true health and ways to maximize their lives through nutrition, lifestyle classes, detoxification and spinal correction.


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